If you are a new mom sometimes you naturally have mom friends already built into your life. Other times you may find yourself to be first of your group of friends to be having kids or maybe you’ve just moved to a new area. Where should you go to meet some new mom friends? Here are a few ideas to get your started:
- Mommy & me classes. If you are local to the Twin Cities, there are plenty of classes like this. You can look into ECFE (Early Childhood Family Education) classes, mama and baby yoga, classes put on by childbirth educators/centers, music and art classes, stroller walking, swim lessons and more. Just do a search to see what’s available in your area. This is a great way to meet other moms with babies and young children.
- Local kid-friendly hangouts. Check out malls with children’s play areas, community centers, and library or bookstore story times. Don’t be afraid to chat with the moms you find there, you never know who could be your new best friend! If you have seen a mom multiple times or your kids just seem to click, ask if she wants to grab coffee or enjoy a enjoy a picnic lunch after a storytime.
- Search online for local meet-ups. There are some online sites that post local meet-ups for moms. One example is meetup.com. Or if you love a particular parenting blog or podcast, check and see if someone has organized a local meet up in your area. People attending meetups are looking for friends too, so be intentional about getting to know some moms once you get there. Don’t be afraid to exchange numbers so you can set up future play dates.
Some advice along the way:
Don’t get discouraged. If the first group you go to was a flop, try out a new one. If you experienced rejection, try not to take it too personally. Oftentimes, it was about them and not you.
Keep initiating. Chances are there are other moms at the places you go to that are feeling lonely and isolated. But you don’t need to wait for them to come up to you. Go ahead and say hi and see where it takes you.
Expose yourself to lots of new people and situations. Making mom friends can feel a bit like dating and sometimes that means exposure to lots of different moms in different situations until you find your “match”.
Feel free to weigh in below with your suggestions or stories of how you met your best mom friends!
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